Give Your Self-Confidence a Boost
Every now and then our self confidence takes a beating and we need a little boost. I find that it is similar to refueling my car. It needs to be taken back from time to time for refueling. How about you, is your self confidence in need of a fuel boost?
Have you heard the expression, “He(she) wears his(her) heart on his(her) sleeve?” I don’t really know what that means. But I do know every now and then, it pays to follow the heart. When I follow my heart, I’m usually happy with the outcome.
Wouldn’t it be great if we could go to the store and buy a bottle of “100 Percent Genuine Happiness” and pour into our lives? That’s not going to happen. Neither is life the greatest ice cream cone we’ve ever had.
Each of us describes success in different ways. Many people think of success in terms of money or other material things. Yet there are those who have all those things and still do not see themselves as successful. How about you? What does success mean to you?
Perhaps you want success but cannot quite grasp the concept of determining how you go about having it. Here are five steps to get you started toward gaining your personal success:
1. Know What You Want.
It’s important that you know what you want in order to achieve success in your life. Get as clear as you can on what you want. State your wants in terms of long-term goals. Then create a plan to reach those goals. In addition, you’ll need to create a series of short term goals which lead to achievement of the long-term goals. These are small steps along the way to meeting your ultimate or long-term goal. Brainstorm what you need to do to reach the goal and make a written plan to follow through.
Have you ever watched someone who just looked self-confident, hands down? And, I am not talking about ego. I’m talking about feeling good and confident in their own skin to their very core.
Have you ever played a game where you used all the techniques and worked all the methods only to be beaten by the other person? Most of us have come face to face with such situations and are left in a blinding fog of confusion without even knowing what happened and why.
Remember the adage, “No man is an island?” Well, I am going to use that saying to refer to how you need support from others. In life, we count on our support systems to help us get through it all. Family, friends and colleagues are some people who support you on a day-to-day basis.
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So, what’s your story? Think about it for a moment. Pretend it is being played on a wide screen in HD. Sit back and observe the story – the moves, the plays, the words and the plot. At the end of the story, ask yourself, “Is this story serving me well?” “Does it hold me back or move me forward in an empowering way?’ The process may take a little time, but you might find it is well worth your effort. Perhaps you will discover it is time to shift your story’s perspective or maybe you will uncover validation that it is a perspective which you should cling to because of its enduring value to who you are.(Part 1 of 2)
Between exercise repetitions at my gym last week, I paused to catch my breath as we exercise enthusiasts normally do between reps. After what must have been an unusually long pause, I heard a cheerful voice speaking to me. It was that of a gym member on the Shoulder Press next to me. In a very concerned manner, he said, “Come back. You’re getting too caught up in the story.” His words jolted me back into the present moment. I slowly turned to him, smiled and said, “You’re probably right.” Of course he was right. I was deeply immersed in a story. Later, I would recall his words as I thought to myself, “Everyone has a story.” No doubt, you have often heard it asked, “What is your story?” or “What is his or her story anyway?”
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